Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common letter groupings when it comes to talking about BDSM and submission. These could also be seen in profiles and dating sites.

@: In discussions, addressing a reply to that user's statement @OP: Addressing a reply to the Original Post (and/or Poster)

.02 (as in "my .02"): two cents' worth 24/7: Full-time relationship (24 hrs, 7 days)

A-C

AB: Adult Baby ABDL: Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers AFK: Away From The Keyboard. Similar to BRB, but indicates you might be gone for longer. ANR: Adult Nursing Relationship ATM: Ass To Mouth ASL: Age, Sex, Location? This was a popular question in chat rooms, but not so much on sites such as this where your A, S and L are probably stated in—profile.

BBW: Big Beautiful Woman BD: Bondage and Discipline BDSM: General term referring to the entire range of D/s; an amalgamation of abbreviations:

• BD: Bondage and Discipline
• D/s: Dominance and submission
• S/m: Sado-masochism

BFD: Big Fucking Deal BRB - Be Right Back... commonly used when IMing BS: Bullshit! BUMP:  In discussion, a "bump" is entering a response whose sole purpose is to bring the thread back to the top of the list. BYOT: Bring Your Own Toys (helps prevent spread of diseases)

CBT: Cock and Ball Torture CD: Cross Dresser CDD: Christian Domestic Discipline

D-F

DL: Diaper Lover DM: Dungeon Monitor D/s: Dominance/submission DTTAH: Don't Try This At Home

EMC: Erotic Mind Control

FEM: Abbrev. for "female", as in FEM DOM. FFF, FMF, FMM, etc: Refers to "threesomes", F for female, M for male. FFS: For Fucks Sake FtM: Female to Male transgender (see TG note) FUBAR: Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition FUMTU: Fucked Up More Than Usual FWIW: For What It's Worth FYI: For Your Information

G-J

GF: Gender Fluid GG: Gender Girl GIGO: Garbage In Garbage Out GL: Good Looking GM: Gender Male GMTA: Great Minds Think Alike (can be combined with YFSD) GTMI: Giving Too Much Information GQ: Gender Queer

HARD: Honour Accountability Responsibility Duty. HILT: Honesty Integrity loyalty Trust. HWP: Height-Weight Proportional

IANAL: I Am Not A Lawyer IDGAD, IDGAF: I Don't Give A Damn (Fuck) IM (IMing) - Instant Messenger. Refers to chat services like Yahoo Messenger and Skype, think of it as texting from your computer. IMHO: In My Honest Opinion IMhO: In My humble Opinion IMNSHO: In My Not So Humble Opinion IMO: In My Opinion IMPE: In My Personal Experience RL: In Real Life ISO: In Search Of (usu. refers to "personals" ad)

K-M

KMA: Kiss My Ass

LD, LDR: Long Distance Relationship LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans (generalization encompassing all of alternate sexuality) LMAO: Laughing My Ass Off LMBO: Laughing My Butt Off LOL: Laughing Out Loud LT, LTR: Long-Term Relationship

MC: Mind Control MILF: Mother I'd Like to Fuck MFF, MFM, MMM, etc: Refers to "threesomes", F for female, M for male. MFIC: Mother Fucker In Charge MtF: Male to Female transgender MYOB, MYOFB: Mind Your Own (Fucking) Business

N-Q

NBD, NBFD: No Big (Fucking) Deal NLA: National Leather Association NSA: No Strings Attached

OL, O/L, OLR: On-line relationship OP: Original Post or Original Poster OSO: Other Significant Other OTK: Over The Knee

PE: Power Exchange PYL: Pick Your Label 

R-V

R & P: Restraint and Pleasure RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink (alternative philosophy to SSC) ROFL, ROTFL: Rolling On (The) Floor Laughing ROFLMAO: Rolling On Floor Laughing My Ass Off RL, R/L: Real Life RT, R/T: Real Time RU, RUA: Are you (a) ______?

SAM, SAS: Smart-Ass Masochist/Subbie SDS: Same Damned Spot SNAFU: Situation Normal: All Fucked Up SO: Significant Other SOSDD: Same Old Shit, Different Day SRS: Sexual Reassignment Surgery SSBBW: Super-Size Big Beautiful Woman SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual (alternative philosophy to RACK) SSDD: Same Shit, Different Day

TB: Teen Baby TBH, TBTH: To Be (Totally) Honest TFF: Too Fucking Funny TG: Trans-Gender TGFM, TG F-M, TG FtoM, etc: Trans-Gender Female-to-Male TGMF, TG M-F, TG MtoF, etc: Trans-Gender Male-to-Female TIA: Thanks In Advance TIH: Taken In Hand TLDR: Too Long, Didn't Read TMI: Too Much Information TPE: Total Power Exchange TTFN: Ta Ta For Now TTYL: Talk To You Later TTYS: Talk To You Soon TV: Transvestite TY: Thank You TYVM: Thank You Very Much TY,TYVM 

UDM: Ultimate Decision Maker

W-Z

WEG: Wicked Evil Grin WIITWD: What It Is That We Do WTF: What the Fuck WTMI: Way Too Much Information

YFSD: Yet Fools Seldom Differ (can be combined with GMTA) YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink YKNMKBTOK: Your Kink's Not My Kink But That's OK YKINMKBYKIOK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is OK YKINNMK: Your Kink Is Not Necessarily My Kink YKINOK: Your Kink Is Not OK YKIOK, IJNMK: Your Kink Is OK, It's Just Not My Kink YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary YMW: You're Most Welcome YQW, YRQW: You're (Really) Quite Welcome YW: You're Welcome

Special thanks to BDSM Glossary for compiling the initial list.

Anything else I should add to this list? Suggest them in the comments!