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How to prepare for BDSM play?

By Utimi On Apr 20, 2023
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Preparation for BDSM play is essential to ensuring the best experience for both partners. Essentially, a BDSM scene is a prepared area where the normal BDSM action takes place. It can take place in a variety of places - your bedroom, a hotel room, or a special BDSM dungeon (if you have access to one).

Have an open conversation with your partner: First, you must have an open conversation with your partner before making a scene.

It is a wise idea to discuss your goals, the reasons for your actions and the desired outcome. Anything is possible, from sexual pleasure to a closer relationship.


Now is the perfect time to talk about your fantasies for BDSM scenarios, including domed and sub positions. It's important that you're both on the same page when it comes to feeling pleasure and understanding what turns you on.

Establish a safe word: Before engaging in any form of BDSM play, it is important that you establish a safe word that you both remember and can use if problems arise. The safe word should ideally be something that is easy to remember and something that you will not say casually during sexual activity, such as "no", "don't", or "stop".

For each word, you can choose a color code (green, yellow and red).

Green - indicates that everything is normal.
Yellow - Use when your activity is doing well but needs to be slowed down.
Red-use it when you want to stop the activity.

You can also choose non-verbal communication if your partner is unable to express themselves. Some non-verbal communication options are:

 • Snapping your fingers
 • Dropping an object
 • Touch an object, etc.

Please note that some things may not go as planned.

Things usually don't go as planned, even though you may want to arrange every little detail and pray that nothing will go wrong. And that's perfectly fine!

It doesn't have to be a scene breaker, so if things get tied up or you mess something up, let it go. Also, some of the things you planned may not go as smoothly as you had hoped. Keep going with what you're doing now, pay attention to it, and make adjustments for next time.


Common BDSM scenario:

If you're looking for spicy scene ideas for your next BDSM game session, here are three scenes that are perfect for beginners:

 • Role Play

By far the most common BDSM scene is role-playing. By choosing to play multiple characters, you can create fantastically different power relationships. Perhaps you can swap roles so that one of you is a student and the other is a librarian.
Everyone can choose a role-playing scenario that suits their preferences, because there are so many different scenarios.

 • Deny orgasm

Denying your partner an orgasm is a common BDSM activity. Either you tease him, but never let him finish. Or you don't let them have an orgasm until you've had three orgasms yourself. 

This doesn't require a lot of creative thinking and can be a nice and easy way to start BDSM.

 • It is not necessary to have sex all the time

Sexual activity is not a requirement for BDSM. It is the communication of mental strength that is sometimes the most important.

You can force your partner to clean the house while they are dressed ridiculously, or you can make them wear ridiculous clothes as well.

Many people find this appealing, and it doesn't have to be if you don't want to have sex.

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